2013-11-20 “Yes You Can”

There seems to be an evolving trend in funeral service these days which includes a very simplified service.  More and more people are choosing cremation and following that there may be a memorial service or there may not be one.  Sometimes there is a very personal gathering of family at the graveside to say goodbye and sometimes there is a boat chartered out into the waves of Lake Erie.  When I hear people talking about these kinds of services, I hear different comments…some people like it, some don’t; some people say “he must not have had a lot of money” and some people say “there were other things that were more important to him”.  I say it’s a personal choice.  I always said that I wanted to be cremated and have my ashes spread in my mother’s garden and if I got stuck on her boots then I would go for a walk with her.  Since that isn’t possible anymore, I am open to whatever my family’s needs are at the time.  I do have some personal views for my own funeral though; I won’t take the opportunity away from my family to see me when I die because I believe with all of my heart that is an important thing.  And I won’t take the opportunity for people who care for them to come together and give them a hug or to shake their hand because I believe that is important too.   While a simplified funeral service may be less expensive than a traditional funeral service, both services can be equally as meaningful.  There are so many ways that you can make that time what you need it to be.  I always say to follow your heart and then you will know that you did what was right.  You only have one chance and you won’t regret the things that you do, only the things that you didn’t do.  Some people are afraid to ask if they can do certain things, and I wish you wouldn’t be, because you would find that I am one of the most open minded people that you will come to know in your life.  I will discuss any funeral service options with you…our motto here is “yes we can” or more importantly “yes YOU can”.