Audrey Varney

A photo of Audrey Varney


Blenheim Community Funeral Home
Saturday March 12, 2022
2:00 p.m.


Blenheim Community Funeral Home
Saturday March 12, 2022
12:00 - 2:00 p.m.

Born: Killead, County Antrim, Ireland May 18, 1943
Died: Ridgetown, Ontario, Canada March 4, 2022


To capture in a few words the essence of a beautiful human being is not an easy task. And that was who Audrey Denise Graham Varney was – a beautiful human being.

Audrey was introduced to her Christian faith at a young age. It guided her throughout her life, giving her strength when she needed it most. She was a loving and faithful servant to all. This was defined through her actions, in recognizing and giving to those in need:  whether those she knew or those she didn’t.

She never wanted recognition for her gifts of Self, which is the best gift anyone can give. She gave them all with a loving heart and a silent grace. She was like the good Samaritan seeking out those who needed help and doing her best to fulfil that need. Though a ‘giver’ in every sense of the word, she never saw herself as such and we can only assume this is why she found it so very difficult to receive in kind.

Her generosity to others throughout her life would be a mystery to the selfish, to those who don’t care about others’ woes unless it affects them and to those who feel that the greatest legacy in life is measured through monetary value.

Audrey loved her family as she loved her God. They were her blessings and she cherished them like the treasures they are. She adopted her in-laws and the friends of her children and grandchild and treated them like they were her own. She opened her home for joyous occasions to others and as a refuge when people needed a helping hand. She was a true and loving friend to many.

Audrey loved life and valued each moment of the days she was given. Her zest for life was witnessed in the way she lived it. She was always on the move, enjoying each day to its fullest. As she reminded us in the end, the only day you have is today and you should make sure you live it to the fullest.

She was fiercely independent in speech and in her actions. She was also very private.  But as the Irish lass she was, she never backed down from a good debate and was always generous in her opinions.

Audrey said that the greatest gift her husband Alan gave her was her two sons Kyle and Dale. They lived up to her belief in, and love for them. The endless support they gave their mother was noted by many. Their answer when praised was, ‘We learned by example.’ What a beautiful gift to a mother’s ear.

Audrey departed her earthly home on Friday, March 4th 2022. Despite her illness, she fought valiantly and with laughter, making the most of each day she was given.

Now she has travelled to that beautiful Garden of Eden in the sky and is reunited with her beloved husband Alan and all those she loved and lost through the years. What a celebration that must have been! God is smiling that Audrey has come home.

Audrey leaves behind her son Kyle and his loving wife Tammy, and her granddaughter Samantha, her son Dale, sister Kathryn Young and family, and her brother Rev. Roger Millar, his wife Nancy and family plus so many more family and friends who loved her so very dearly.

Visitation will be held on Saturday, March 12, 2022 at the Blenheim Community Funeral Home located at 60 Stanley Street, Blenheim, Ontario ( from 12:00 to 2:00 with the funeral service immediately following at 2:00.

The family would request that in lieu of flowers that donations be made to the ALS Society of Windsor-Essex County

Do not weep for me for I have not gone.
I am the memory that dwells in the heart of those that knew me.

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Audrey has been such an inspiration to everyone that has been blessed to know her. She will be missed.

We are so sorry for your loss. Sending our love and strength to each of you xoxo

Dale and Kyle, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. She was such a special person, and will be deeply missed by so many. She was always so kind and welcoming to me, and I have so many great memories of the time I spent at your house. Thinking of all of you. Jen

Dear Nancy, Roger and family, I give you my deepest condolences and strongest hugs and love at the loss of your dear sister Audrey. Love, Mary Ann Hall

Kyle, Dale and all your family, Your Mom was absolutely the loveliest of ladies and anyone that had the privilege of knowing her was truly blessed! As you navigate through this difficult time, may it somehow help to know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many. With sincere sympathy, Monica (Muehmer) Robertson

Dale & Kyle, my condolences to you and your families.

So sorry for loss of Mom and sister.She was a great lady.Prayers and thoughts with you all.

Dale and Kyle Please accept our deepest condolences for your loss. We will be sure to raise a glass in her memory Bill and Nicole

So sorry for you and your family’s loss Kyle and Dale. Holding you in our prayers . I always loved my visits with your mom when ever we ran into each other on my returns to Ridgetown. Sending you all love from our family to yours. Meg Hetherington and Peggy Neutens

Our sincere condolences to Audrey’s family and friends. She was a special lady and I will Miss her dearly.

My deepest condolences to Tammy Wilson-Varney and her family for the passing of her Mother-in-Law.

My condolences to Audrey’s family. I use to clean house for her and also we rented from Al & Audrey in Ridgetown. She was a great lady she definitely will be missed by all.

Sending deepest sympathies to the Varney family. Glad I had the opportunity to meet and work with Audrey at St James Phyllis & Ralph Brodie

Dear Kyle, Dale, Kathryn, Rodger, Nancy, and families: It is with great sadness but wonderful memories that I write this heartfelt note of condolence. I think I was about 10 when the Millar family arrived at St. Paul's Presbyterian Church from Ireland. How excited the entire congregation was! We were so blessed to have the whole family. As time passed I was always thrilled to join in with Audrey and Kathryn in Church activities like Sunday School, Choir and Young Peoples. I remember helping Audrey look after the kids in Junior Church and the nursery during services. One memory that always makes me smile is the time Audrey and I were making candles for the Christmas Eve Service. We were in the Young People's group but I don't recall any of the others in the Church kitchen that afternoon. Audrey had heard or read about melting wax, then whipping it as it began to cool, putting sprinkles into the cooling wax and then dipping store-bought candles into the whipped mixture which would adhere to the exterior of the candles, providing a sparkly rough texture to the outside. The candles turned out to be beautiful! What we hadn't considered though was that the entire kitchen would have bits and pieces of wax everywhere from the whipping stage of the process. All was well after hours of clean up and I don't recall any negative responses from the adults. That learning experience and many other awesome opportunities gave me good reason to admire Audrey and indeed the entire Millar family My heart aches for the loss you are enduring. We will cherish her memory and all would do well to follow her fine example of love, grace and kindness to others. May your memories of good times be of comfort. Joanne, Brian and family

Kyle, Dale & families - Please accept our sincere sympathy in the passing of your Mom, our thoughts and prayers are with each of you at this very difficult time. I have known your Mom for almost as long as I can remember and always enjoyed her company. May the peace that comes from the memories of love shared comfort you now and in the days to come. Death is not the end, it is only the passing on from time into eternity for the children of God. Death is not extinguishing the light, it is putting out the lamp because dawn has come.

Audrey added class, joy and humour to our New to You crew. She was the only one who knew the value of name brand items. Mostly we will miss her endearing, authentic self. We will miss you Audrey./Fran Black

My deepest sympathy to Dale, Kyle and Family. It was one of the greatest privilege to have met Audrey. In the short time I knew this beautiful Lady, she taught me much. I hear her voice saying to me " today is all that matters". It will stay with me always.

We just read and were saddened by Audrey’s obituary which friends forwarded to us. Our condolences to her family and many friends who are mourning her passing. She was one very special lady, loved by so many. Both Audrey and Al made a beautiful home for our family for many years – sisters Do (Doreen), Madi and her husband Bruce felt truly blessed sharing the same house with them on Main St. They felt fortunate to have been so beautifully accommodated by such a warm and loving couple. They always considered Al & Audrey family members. We felt privileged being numbered among their many friends. That very special tribute was an excellent description of how Audrey lived her life. Carol & Art Nadelle

Dale and Kyle My sincere condolences to you and your family. Your mom's Tribute is beautiful and captures the wonderful person she was to her family, friends and community. You have been very dedicated sons throughout her life and the support you have provided demonstrates the traits and characteristics she has passed on to you both. With heartfelt sympathy ! She has now joined Alan and will rest in peace. Donna

Our sincere condolences to Kyle, Dale and families. We remember Audrey for the great times we had at arenas and making snacks together for after game socials. They are cherished memories. Audrey was a special lady.

To all of Audrey's family we send our deepest condolences. Hopefully those beautiful memories of Audrey will help heal the loss to her family and friends. You will be missed by many. RIP dear Lady. Cathy and John Konecny

Sincere condolences. What a great lady. We had lots of fun times. I remember how us girls wanted to go to Toronto for a get away and Audrey said-we could stay at my sons apartment! And so four of us went and had sooo much fun. Thank you for that. She never stopped talkIng about Samantha-always had a little bragging story to tell. Now she’ll relive these with Jesus. Goodbye precious friend.

So sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family.

A beautiful tribute for a beautiful lady. Our sincere sympathy to Audrey’s family. Glenda & Jim Yule

Our sincere condolences to all of Audrey's extended family. She has always been a great friend and a gracious host. She will be sorely missed by all who knew her.,,,,many happy memories of overnight stays, many laughs and great conversations over the years. Ionne & Joe Woodall.. Lambeth,ON.

Sending deepest condolences to all of the family.RIP Audrey

Our sincere sympathy to the family of Audrey. She was a light in the lives of many at St. James Presbyterian Church, Chatham and communities of Chatham Kent. She brought a smile to us all with her love of God’s message and her supporting faith to everyone. We were so shocked to hear of her passing. We will be keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers at this time of your loss. Ed & Carol VanDeWynckel

Sending our condolences to Dale and Kyle o the passing of your Mom. She was a beautiful lady. Always had a smile and take time to talk to you. She’ll certainly be missed. Dayle & Donna Zehr

Sorry to hear this Kyle and Dale. Highly respected both of your parents. My condolences to the both of you Fella's.

Kyle and Dale, I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of your wonderful Mom. She was the kindest woman who was always so welcoming to everyone. I have such fond memories of her and the fun times at your house. Thoughts and prayers to all of you. She truly will be missed. Andrea Murray

Very Sorry !! Ridgetown will miss you !!